I realize this is rehashing my earlier post somewhat, but now we’re hearing directly form Kyle McAlarney — not just from his mother — his reaction to Notre Dame’s decision to suspend him for a semester for marijuana possession… and it ain’t pretty:
“Speaking for my family, we’re very ashamed and very disappointed with how Notre Dame handled everything. I did everything I could do and more, but they didn’t judge me on that. A regular student would not get half the punishment that I received.”
Look, I don’t care where you come down on the issue of marijuana use or Notre Dame’s drug policy. Personally, I tend to think that marijuana should be legalized, and that regardless, Notre Dame’s policy is too harsh. But those are side issues. The central issue here is that Kyle McAlarney is not being truthful. His statement to the press is either dishonest or ignorant (and if the latter, he should know better). He is publicly bashing Notre Dame for inconsistency where no inconsistency exists. There is simply no possible defense of McAlarney’s statement. He should be “ashamed” — not of Notre Dame, but of himself.
Cue Black & Green, which says it better than I could:
Now to a story that really bugs me. Kyle McAlarney said in no uncertain terms, that he is “ashamed” by Notre Dame’s punishment for him. I caught the headline and thought for sure that it read “McAlarney ‘ashamed’ about his own actions.” In my morning stupor, I thought that the young man had taken responsibility for his mistake and plans to move on. How silly of me. In today’s society, when does anyone take responsibility for their own actions? …
I’m not feeling sorry for you, Kyle. I truly believed that you would take the high road here and just take your punishment. I understand that you must be frustrated. It’s ok to disagree with the University’s reaction to your crime. However, to pretend that you are being held to a higher standard than everyone else is blatantly ridiculous. Apparently you haven’t heard that just about every other drug case ends up with a semester dismissal from Notre Dame. ND is not like a public school, it’s not like Boston College, it’s not like any other university in the world. True, this suspension is harsh. You should have thought about your punishment before you decided to light up.
While the semester suspension doesn’t come as a surprise to me, the McAlarney family seems blindsided. This is where I have some sympathy for K-Mac. He obviously was surrounded by people who told him that the disciplinary action would not be this harsh. If he was expecting better news, it is natural to be bitter. He did act respectably before this and took the indefinite suspension from basketball well. However, saying that he is being treated more harshly than others is downright false. I really hoped Kyle would rise above that.
Read the whole thing, which notes that McAlarney’s blatantly false comments are feeding a predictable spasm of anti-Notre Dame backlash in the media. Way to pay back the university for the free education and all the opportunities it offered you, Kyle.
I’d also recommend this earlier post by Black & Green, written before McAlarney whined to the press, which shows just how absurd the whine really is:
First let me applaud ResLife for this difficult decision. No matter your opinion on marijuana use, the difference between DUI and drug possession, and the Administration in general, the McAlarney’s dismissal from the University fell in line with normal procedure.
“11. Disciplinary Suspension Ã¢â‚¬â€ Separation from the University for at least one semester. The student is eligible to apply for readmission to Notre Dame. Readmission after suspension is not automatic; a suspended student must complete an application for readmission. Readmission must be cleared by the Office of Student Affairs, the suspended studentÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s academic department and the Office of Student Accounts.”
Four out of five drug cases at ND result in a one semester suspension. Many students return to normal college life the next semester and move on. Of course, this policy is much stricter than most colleges nationwide, but Notre Dame holds its students to a higher standard.
Had this been a “normal” case, the punishment would have raised no eyebrows. Had he been a less integral part of the basketball team, few would bemoan Kyle’s dismissal. He knew what he was doing, and must face the consequences.
Along the same lines, here is thebeef’s comment on my earlier post:
DomersÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ reaction to K-MacÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s suspension is absolutely ridiculous.
The university has not treated K-Mac any differently than they have treated anyone else.
DuLac is very specific on this issue: Ã¢â‚¬Å“Possession or use of any controlled substance includingÃ¢â‚¬Â¦marijauanaÃ¢â‚¬Â¦is a serious violation. Students who possess or use such substances shall be subject to suspension or dismissal.Ã¢â‚¬?
That is the rule. Period. Suspension or dismissal. K-Mac violated the rule, now heÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s paying the price. …
I hope that Domers are not suggesting that athletes be held to a more lenient standard than the average student. Probably not. From the sound of it, people are pissed off with the rule itself.
I think itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s fine to disagree with the rule, but this rule should hardly be surprising. Notre Dame students know that this is the rule. They shove du-Lac down your throat during Frosh-O. Everyone is informed of the rule. Those, like K-Mac, who possess controlled substances, know what they are risking.
Oh, and one more thing: I remember a lot of Domers giving the Gators a hard time for not coming down harder on Jarvis Moss for a similar offense, and allowing him to play against South Carolina (a game the Gators won on the play of MossÃ¢â‚¬Â¦allowing them to eventually advance and win the N.C.) These Irish fans proudly proclaimed that Notre Dame would never go so easy on one of its own athletes, because Notre Dame is more than a Football factory focused on winning at all costs. We have standards. Well, here you have it.
The hypocrisy is staggering: criticizing other schools for their lax standards and patting yourself on the back for being associated with a school that has high standards, and then going ballistic when those high standards are enforced. It’s a bit like praising the “classiness” of your school’s fan base, then advocating physical violence against opposing fans. In other words, typical NDNation crap. But to the extent that it reflects the opinion among a broader cross-section of Irish fans, that’s really unfortunate.
Notre Dame deserves praise, not criticism, for doing what so many universities fail to do: holding its athletes to the same standards as other students, not giving them extra chances just because we want to win games. (You think Notre Dame would have lost to St. John’s last night if Kyle McAlarney had been playing?) We can all debate the wisdom of the policy itself, but no one should deny the correctness of enforcing the policy — whatever it may be — consistently with respect to athletes and non-athletes alike.
Anyway… I’ll conclude by quoting from Hal’s comment on the aforelinked earlier Black & Green post:
Having been kicked out of ND myself, I know a little of the embarrassment and anger Mac’s feeling right now (I say “a little” because my situation obviously did not play out in the newspapers.) I hope, for his sake and ours, that he chooses to come back to ND, which it sounds like he’ll be allowed to do.
When I was booted, I carried away a lot of residual anger from the process. In the run-up to a decision from the university on your status, you’re made to jump through a bunch of hoops and make some commitments, and when that doesn’t save you from expulsion, it leaves you feeling extra stupid.
But in retrospect, that anger was just coming from embarrassment. I deserved what I got, and ND gave me a second chance. Further, upon readmittance ND proved itself to be anything but the calculating, callous place I’d painted it as during my exile.
Indeed, when a year later, I developed a drinking problem that seriously hurt my academic perfomance, the counselors, profs, and the Deans at my college (Waddick and Austgen) bent over 180 degrees to help me get my life in order and graduate. It would have been very easy for them to say, “This kid had his chance. We’re done with him now.” But instead, they guided me towards the solutions that let me get my life in order.
It’s not exaggerration to say that I would not be the stable, successful person I am today without their help and compassion.
I mention this, not because I think Mac has all the same sort of problems I did. But I’m guessing that a large part of his anger stems from being cast out of a family he felt very much a part of. I know hat feeling and it sucks.
But the best decision I ever made — in all my life — was to commit myself to finishing what I started at ND.
I wish Mac luck wherever he goes. But I really hope he comes back to us.