It’s official. I’m going to Sarah’s wake and funeral. I was able to reshuffle things in Phoenix, and I just booked my flight to Connecticut.
In light of the distances and the logistics, I assumed at first that I simply wouldn’t be able to make it. But the more I thought about it, the more I felt that I needed to. I don’t know what “closure” is, exactly, but I think I need it. And I know I need to pay my respects. As I said earlier, Sarah holds a special place in my heart and a special page in the story of my life. I need to say goodbye.
The firms in Phoenix were very understanding and I very much appreciate that. Hopefully my professors will be equally understanding, and hopefully I’ll be able to recover academically from missing more than a week of school all told (between the wake, the funeral, the flights and the interviews).
There is a tragic symmetry here. More than five years ago, as a freshman in college, I flew home from school for Sarah’s prom. Now, as a second-year law student, I’m flying home from school for her funeral.
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Categories: Sarah LeFoll
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September 19th, 2005 at 4:27:39 pm
This will be a life changing experience. A lot of soul searching will be happening, I gues.
To go back home and attend the services is a very honorable thing for you to do, Brendan.
I continue to pray today for Sarah and her family.
September 19th, 2005 at 6:09:34 pm
Closure: deal with the pain, embrace it, but don’t let it ruin your life.
Here’s an old story from SE Asia:
Two monks were walking along and came to a river ford. There was a prostitute there, and she asked them to carry her across. The older monk picked her up and carried her across the river.
The monks continued ther walk. A few hours later, the younger monk, who had been fulminating, said ‘I can’t believe that you would befoul yourself by carrying a prostitute.”
The older monk replied “Why are you still carrying her? I set her down miles ago.”
That’s closure.
September 20th, 2005 at 12:54:56 am
I’m so glad to hear that you and Becky will be able to go to her funeral. More than ever, she and her family need the love that your family can provide.
Life is indeed short and so very precious.
September 20th, 2005 at 1:16:58 am
Actually, it will just be me going. But of course I will deliver Becky’s best wishes, condolences and respects as well.